Only what you need for your baby. Really. (OK – and some fantastic things you don’t that are pretty cool.)
Papa is often overlooked in this whole “Yay! We’re pregnant!/Hooray! What a cute baby!” continuum. You don’t see a lot of massage gift certificates coming his way and his life is changing too, so he could use a little love. Enter Armin Brott.
Brott has written a series of books for expectant and new fathers that are practical and pithy, good-humored but still to the point. They are not, like many entries into this corner of the market, “hilarious,” i.e. full of pretty low-grade humor that’s often kind of insulting to the dad’s intelligence, to the mom’s experience, and to a couple that’s actually functional and communicative. Also, importantly for you, the gift giver, Brott is agnostic as to parenting philosophy, so you won’t be offending anyone (unless they’re going with the “raise ’em by wolves!” thing, in which case a different kind of gift might be in order. Like a nice gift certificate for institutionalization, say.)
One thing I loved: he says right up front that he alternates gender pronouns by chapter, so boys and girls are equally covered and no gender equality bristling is required. Very practical approach to a sometimes touchy issue, as are most of his answers in the book.
Minimalist angle: Brott’s observations and recommendations are also not particularly long-winded, so a dad with very little time can breeze through the sections in the few spare minutes he has before falling asleep on the floor.